Negative Comments

In the time that I have had this blog I have never had a negative comment… until tonight.  So I feel a need to re-state some things about my blog and the purpose behind it.

This blog isn’t meant as an “Oh POOR ME… my life was so horrible.”  I am not looking for pity.  I am writing about my life publicly because I feel that the more people that come in contact with it, the more people might be able to get through something horrible in their life.  Whether it’s past or present… I am trying to show people that child abuse is more common than the statistics.  The published statistics are only the reported ones that have come forward.  Of course there’s a buffer placed in there for an estimate of ones that haven’t come out.  It’s not accurate.  The children that survive child abuse and become adults, if they are lucky and able to survive it emotionally, can come out intact.  However, there’s a lot of emotional damage that is done that causes severe problems.  Multiple Personality Disorder and Disassociation are just two examples.  I happen to be very lucky.  For whatever reason, I turned out whole.  I’m a happy and well adjusted adult.  I have a loving husband and two beautiful daughters.

There is another purpose behind what I’m doing.  I’m posting these events of my life as a way to let go of them.  I have already cut the poisonous relationships out of my life.  My mother was the one that let these things happen to me… and my daughter asked me (at four years of age) a few days ago where my mother is and upon receiving the answer, she questioned me further.  She asked if my mother was her grandma too.  I told her no and my history is why she is not and never will be aloud around my girls.  I am biologically related to Kim and had no choice in that and now that I am an adult, I have an obligation to protect my girls and my mother happens to be someone they need protection from.

This blog is not for the faint of heart.  This blog discusses the very real events of my life.  If you don’t like what I write about, please don’t read.  Definitely don’t post negative comments.  If you read… great.  I can take all of the support I can get.  That’s had a huge impact on the things that I have been able to work through.

I have actually started writing a book about how I did make it out in one piece.  I’m doing it for myself but possibly for the others that will find something useful in it.  I would like to say that the negative comment was easy to brush off and move forward with what I’m doing.  I am still forever moving forward but the comment… it wasn’t nice.


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  1. There’s always going to be someone around to rain on your parade, no matter what. They are toxic people and do not need to be allowed into your life. Slough it off as much as you can. Go back and re-read the good comments, the encouraging comments, the “oh, I’m so glad you said this . . . ” comments. Drown out the one negative one by washing everything clean with the good ones.

    Or, in other words, don’t let the bastards get you down!! 😀

    1. I absolutely and always get a kick out of your comments to me. Don’t worry, I’m not too messed over on it but felt the post was necessary. Partially, the reaffirm with myself the reasons I’m doing what I’m doing.
      With much love and respect…

  2. Ah never apologize. It’s your blog. If people don’t like what you write they should
    just stay away. Most of the time they are in need of a hug and just lash out because they are hurt inside.

    Also… Yay delete button! 😉

  3. I’m sorry that the words of another affected you for badly. You really don’t need to explain why you’ve written your blog as a way of justification. You are not responsible for that person’s feelings of contentment, even when it pertains to your own blog. Keep the focus on yourself and not on those who do not understand how to be civil.

    I don’t always like every post I read on every blog I am following. This is the reason for the like button. Some people just like to pee in your cheerios no matter what.

    Keep your chin up!

    1. I sat there for a few minutes and thought about the old saying “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” I wouldn’t think about leaving a bad or negative comment on someone else’s blog.
      With much respect,

      1. I was thinking that opinions are like a#$holes, everyone has one and some are more pleasant than others! Don’t let it get your down! You’re an incredible person and have every right to post whatever you want on your blog!

        Kind Regards,

  4. I quite agree wth all the other comments here Phoenix, there is always someone who will want to have a pop and be rude just for the rush of being able to do so.

    At no stage have you ever written that this a “poor me” blog, in fact you have been at great pains to make sure that it is understood that it is not, and the purpose for which you are writing it.

    Writing this can not be an easy thing for you, the memories it must bring back when you write it must be awful, and as I’ve said before you are the bravest person I’ve ever met.
    You have been through hell, please don’t let the negative words of one person stop you from telling your story.

    Your blog is your blog, if people don’t like it then they don’t have to read it… there’s a choice, push the back button and don’t come back again if they don’t like it, not leave a shitty comment just to piss off the writer.

    As survivor55 says, go back and read some of good and encouraging comments from some of the people who are genuinely concerned about you… dont let the bastards get you down indeed!
    Keep on doing what you do, being you and let the good comments blow away any negatives.

    Thanks for telling your story, it’s certainly opened my eyes, and if it’s helping you to survive and work through these terrible things, then that’s the most important part of it all.
    Don’t let one comment get to Phoenix, there are far more supporters than denigrators 🙂
    love n hugs

  5. Phoenix, I’m sorry you got a negative comment. Makes me mad actually and you were really gracious about how you addressed it in your post…I might not have been, but I would have been very shaken too. Again, I thank you for connecting with me and liking and following some of my posts…release and set it free for good…and I’m sure your story will help many.

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